Well here we are at the end of this class. I have had so much fun in this class. I also have really enjoyed and have learned so much because of all of my classmates. Here are some parting words of encouragement and wisdom.
Each of you are destined for Greatness! Think about it like this, no matter what age you are, you can relate to this. We live in a world that is both awesome and small. Everything is connected. Think Facebook. On a much larger scale, companies and organizations from hospitals to small companies all interact with companies oversees. 15 years ago, there was no such thing as distance education. The economy was also stable all over the world as well. Somewhere along a idiotic group of people found greed to be more important than doing what is right. Here we are folks! Every one of us has been touched by the economic crisis in some way. Yet we all have decided to make an investment in ourselves by going to school! So let's all make a decision right here and right now to be a heck of a lot smarter and wiser on our decisions than the idiots who let greed ruin it for everyone. We are all destined for Greatness! Let our talents shine and use our powers to give back. If we all do this in our own way then we can help make things better for everyone we meet. This is really what this class has been about. We all learned that we have talents, strengths and skills, we need to use these daily and be ethical all the time. I am so happy that I got to know all of you. You are all very wise people. I look forward to hearing where everyone is in 10 years and how you changed the world! Think it's impossible? It is not.
NEVER give up on your dreams! NEVER give up on yourselves. There will be roadblocks along the way. Some will be our own doing but most likely it will be someone else who puts them there intentionally or not. Remember it took Thomas Edison 1000 tries before he discovered how to harness electricity! What would have happened if he had given up at time 1000? We would be all sitting in the dark! There would be no distance education, no world communications, no I phone or I pad, no X box or PS3 No microwave and " God forbid" no Facebook. So thankfully he decided to try 1001 times. Point is Never Give up!!!
In closing, remember All of you ROCK!!! It has been an honor and a privlege to know all of you. I hope to see you again in other classes.
Link to my Reflections
https://docs.google.com/a/hesser.edu/document/d/1xN-M5N79DxdMBgp1SuNeegWumUkrdSZ79Uzky6NiF5Q/edits.
:
https://docs.google.com/a/hesser.edu/document/d/1gJcns4w0I1_nAufowgSQGy65wV83vpv_CWrkjBdvBxU/edit?pli=1
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Supposed Link to Group B's presentation
https://docs.google.com/a/hesser.edu/present/edit?id=0AbZPhdrq-4sdZGNnNzh2bmZfMGZ6M2Zocmdy
I copied and pasted the link. So I am hoping that this really does work.
I copied and pasted the link. So I am hoping that this really does work.
Monday, February 20, 2012
STRESS RELIEF 101 DAWN'S WAY
The scope of this assignment was to go out and do something. Well, I have my own few ways of dealing with stress. I refer to them as Stress Relief 101 Dawn's Way. I hope that you get a couple of giggles and may even try some as well. I have a very stressful life! I admit this fully. I have always realized that there are degrees of stress. So I have the Coffee Cup Stress Relief as a cleans All! I have the relax and rejuvenate stress relief and I have the Keep from Getting Stressed Out in the First Place remedy.
On a normal basis, I find that I have to rejuvenate or recharge my batteries. Let's face it life throws a ton of stuff at us that we have to deal with. Some of it is our own stuff and some of it is not our stuff at all, yet it creeps into our lives constantly. Our own stuff is things like how do we balance our check books, the bills, our kids lives, work, school, our parents and illnesses. Things that are not ours but we own them as well are the stupid things that people throw at us. In my case it is the murder of my brother, the neighbor's who have no life and I should not have one either, the drama queen at work etc. So I have found that I have to have at least 1 hour per day where I just sit under the stars. You see I found that I also had to take a long hard look at how I can just deal with people or not... I established boundaries! It has been a process but it has been a well worth process. If it does not pertain to me or my family in an immediate way, I don't let it in. This is not to say that there are some things that do not come into my life that I am forced to deal with, but I try to keep a balance by fulfilling my life with positives.
I also am very into scentology. Yes it really does exist. Sometimes I burn a scented candle while I am sitting under the stars. See when you look at the stars on a clear night you begin to see constellations that you never saw before. Did you know that it takes the planet Venus 5 years to make its rotation? It makes a star shape in the sky that takes 5 years to complete. You get to see the coolest meteor showers too. It all reminds us that they have been there for hundred's of millions of years. So what ever we are going through is temporary and quite small when you think about it. I am not trying to lighten anything that someone else is going through. I realized this when I was in an abusive marriage several years ago. It somehow helped me when I decided to leave. I think it was the one habit I got into that made me feel better and I have carried it through life since then. The point is that when you smell something that you find pleasant or sit doing something quiet, it is YOU time, and you will find that you slowly put things into perspective and stress goes away. I can not change the fact that my brother was murdered over $28 or that the perpetrator has not be caught nor will be, I can control what I do with my life. I can control my grades, my time with my family, my stress relief and who I choose to hang out with.
The Keep From Getting Stressed Out in the First Place remedy is simple: I always write in a journal all the things I am grateful for. When I have a bad day, I write: Breathing! I believe that one should always be grateful for what they have no matter how small it is. Then I establish what I lovingly refer to as " Lists" I have found that there are 3 lists in life: People and situations fall into the 3 at some point. 1. The " Popular as a Fart in a Space Suite List" These are the people and situations that are the unnecessary Drama. It is the intentional things that are on this list. You know the types of people and drama they cause. Its never really your stuff it's theirs but they try to make it yours. So anyone on that list I stay away from. 2. The "Useful as a Screen Door on a Submarine List": This is the Stupid stuff that happens or people cause, or people who refuse to handle their own stuff so it becomes you issue. We all have them at work. 3. The " Normal and Good People List" This is the 85% of the people who I know. These are the people who are there to encourage and inspire you . So if I eliminate the other 15% in the other 2 lists then I am not going to get stressed out in the first place.
The extreme stress reliever is the COFFEE CUP Stress Reliever. I have done this 3 times in my life and it was about every 15 years and it saves money on therapy. Side effect is that everyone knows that I have finally had enough if I get to this point. I buy coffee cups from the dollar store put them in a trash bag and take a 25lb sledge hammer to them. Usually there is nothing but ceramic powder left when I am done. I envision every situation or person who has tried to make my life hell as I am pounding the coffee cups. It works! I feel better and in control again. The point is not to get so stressed that I have to go to the coffee cup stage. I have reserved it for situations like my brother's murder, the police saying they have no leads etc.
I also enjoy playing Borderlands and MW3 on the PS3. I find that it is a great way to get out annoyances. Life is a crazy and wonderful thing. Having less stress makes us better people and better to our families and to ourselves.
On a normal basis, I find that I have to rejuvenate or recharge my batteries. Let's face it life throws a ton of stuff at us that we have to deal with. Some of it is our own stuff and some of it is not our stuff at all, yet it creeps into our lives constantly. Our own stuff is things like how do we balance our check books, the bills, our kids lives, work, school, our parents and illnesses. Things that are not ours but we own them as well are the stupid things that people throw at us. In my case it is the murder of my brother, the neighbor's who have no life and I should not have one either, the drama queen at work etc. So I have found that I have to have at least 1 hour per day where I just sit under the stars. You see I found that I also had to take a long hard look at how I can just deal with people or not... I established boundaries! It has been a process but it has been a well worth process. If it does not pertain to me or my family in an immediate way, I don't let it in. This is not to say that there are some things that do not come into my life that I am forced to deal with, but I try to keep a balance by fulfilling my life with positives.
I also am very into scentology. Yes it really does exist. Sometimes I burn a scented candle while I am sitting under the stars. See when you look at the stars on a clear night you begin to see constellations that you never saw before. Did you know that it takes the planet Venus 5 years to make its rotation? It makes a star shape in the sky that takes 5 years to complete. You get to see the coolest meteor showers too. It all reminds us that they have been there for hundred's of millions of years. So what ever we are going through is temporary and quite small when you think about it. I am not trying to lighten anything that someone else is going through. I realized this when I was in an abusive marriage several years ago. It somehow helped me when I decided to leave. I think it was the one habit I got into that made me feel better and I have carried it through life since then. The point is that when you smell something that you find pleasant or sit doing something quiet, it is YOU time, and you will find that you slowly put things into perspective and stress goes away. I can not change the fact that my brother was murdered over $28 or that the perpetrator has not be caught nor will be, I can control what I do with my life. I can control my grades, my time with my family, my stress relief and who I choose to hang out with.
The Keep From Getting Stressed Out in the First Place remedy is simple: I always write in a journal all the things I am grateful for. When I have a bad day, I write: Breathing! I believe that one should always be grateful for what they have no matter how small it is. Then I establish what I lovingly refer to as " Lists" I have found that there are 3 lists in life: People and situations fall into the 3 at some point. 1. The " Popular as a Fart in a Space Suite List" These are the people and situations that are the unnecessary Drama. It is the intentional things that are on this list. You know the types of people and drama they cause. Its never really your stuff it's theirs but they try to make it yours. So anyone on that list I stay away from. 2. The "Useful as a Screen Door on a Submarine List": This is the Stupid stuff that happens or people cause, or people who refuse to handle their own stuff so it becomes you issue. We all have them at work. 3. The " Normal and Good People List" This is the 85% of the people who I know. These are the people who are there to encourage and inspire you . So if I eliminate the other 15% in the other 2 lists then I am not going to get stressed out in the first place.
The extreme stress reliever is the COFFEE CUP Stress Reliever. I have done this 3 times in my life and it was about every 15 years and it saves money on therapy. Side effect is that everyone knows that I have finally had enough if I get to this point. I buy coffee cups from the dollar store put them in a trash bag and take a 25lb sledge hammer to them. Usually there is nothing but ceramic powder left when I am done. I envision every situation or person who has tried to make my life hell as I am pounding the coffee cups. It works! I feel better and in control again. The point is not to get so stressed that I have to go to the coffee cup stage. I have reserved it for situations like my brother's murder, the police saying they have no leads etc.
I also enjoy playing Borderlands and MW3 on the PS3. I find that it is a great way to get out annoyances. Life is a crazy and wonderful thing. Having less stress makes us better people and better to our families and to ourselves.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Week 6 Academic Advising Post
My meeting with my academic adviser went very well. I registered for my classes next term. I will be taking Composition I and Philosophy. I am really looking forward to these classes. The biggest challenge for me is the technical issues that I am still being plagued by. I am sure that these will be straightened out eventually. I am certainly hoping that they will since I am now failing a class because of them. We agreed that being in constant communication like we have been is the key to my success. We also discussed exactly what it is I want to do for a career so that I can pick classes that will help me.
I learned that Hesser has a wonderful and dedicated group of people who want us to succeed and they are dedicated to making this happen. This is important because you certainly do not always get this when you are attending other colleges. Sometimes colleges can get so big that students become a number and the personal contact and interaction is lost. I am saying this from personal experience. I am very impressed and actually feel blessed that I found Hesser. I have every confidence that as long as I put forth the effort that the school will continue to help me. It is nice to have a school that gets as emotionally involved as the student when it comes to their success.
I am sure that there will be questions that arise as time goes on but these questions will be answered in a great way.
I learned that Hesser has a wonderful and dedicated group of people who want us to succeed and they are dedicated to making this happen. This is important because you certainly do not always get this when you are attending other colleges. Sometimes colleges can get so big that students become a number and the personal contact and interaction is lost. I am saying this from personal experience. I am very impressed and actually feel blessed that I found Hesser. I have every confidence that as long as I put forth the effort that the school will continue to help me. It is nice to have a school that gets as emotionally involved as the student when it comes to their success.
I am sure that there will be questions that arise as time goes on but these questions will be answered in a great way.
An Explaination to My Classmates
I would like to take a moment to thank my classmates and our instructor for their inspiration and give an explaination;
This has been a very difficult year for me. Sometimes there are just things that happen that we have no control over. I have found that through these experiences, my relationships with the remaining family I have are either strained or strengthened. A few months ago my foster brother was brutally murdered for $28. Apparently this is what a life costs these days. My brother was in the parking garage of his work minding his own business when the perpatraitor decided to shoot him in the head.The person who committed the murder has never been caught. Since Texas is a large state, they may never catch him. After a surgery and life support we had to take him off of it when it became apparent that he was not going to be any better. I can not tell you how beyond angry I am about this situation!
When I made the decision to return to school, it was because I am trying to redo my life. Grief has a cycle like so many other things in life. I owe my classmates an apology if some of my blogs come out as sort of dark. I am still getting my bearings on things again. This is a rebuilding process for me. I think what happens when you loose someone close is that you go through this period of uncertainty. I fluctuate between anger and uncertainty on where I am going. So all I can do is be vertical and breath and know that I will come through it someday. School is my escape from the horror that is my life right now.
So when I post that I am have had to change my goals and other things it is because I am still rethinking and rebuilding my life. I think I am trying to give my brother's life meaning by trying to live it because he is not here.
I again wanted to thank you for your understanding apologize.
Dawn
This has been a very difficult year for me. Sometimes there are just things that happen that we have no control over. I have found that through these experiences, my relationships with the remaining family I have are either strained or strengthened. A few months ago my foster brother was brutally murdered for $28. Apparently this is what a life costs these days. My brother was in the parking garage of his work minding his own business when the perpatraitor decided to shoot him in the head.The person who committed the murder has never been caught. Since Texas is a large state, they may never catch him. After a surgery and life support we had to take him off of it when it became apparent that he was not going to be any better. I can not tell you how beyond angry I am about this situation!
When I made the decision to return to school, it was because I am trying to redo my life. Grief has a cycle like so many other things in life. I owe my classmates an apology if some of my blogs come out as sort of dark. I am still getting my bearings on things again. This is a rebuilding process for me. I think what happens when you loose someone close is that you go through this period of uncertainty. I fluctuate between anger and uncertainty on where I am going. So all I can do is be vertical and breath and know that I will come through it someday. School is my escape from the horror that is my life right now.
So when I post that I am have had to change my goals and other things it is because I am still rethinking and rebuilding my life. I think I am trying to give my brother's life meaning by trying to live it because he is not here.
I again wanted to thank you for your understanding apologize.
Dawn
GOALS REDONE
At the beginning of this class I created some goals for classes and my life. Since then I have realized that some of these goals have been outdated or out molded and therefore need to change or be eliminated. The rest of them need to be reworked so that I can accomplish them.
Maybe my brain is wired differently than other's but I tend to have to look literally at where I want to go time wise. So I break things down for myself. I have a 5 year plan and then a 3 year and then what I want to accomplish in the next year. From there I break things down further. Having explained how I do things, here is what I am working on for the next year.
Goal 1. Master Plan.
A) Review my Major Goals for next 3-5 yrs. Develop Master Plan with all the steps to accomplish or be moving toward my ultimate goals.
Goal 2: Creating a stress free environment.
A) The Self Reflection Blog helped me see how beneficial it can be when I am in a stress free environment to write. I will carry this into other areas of my life.
B) Carve Out a Corner of My House that's MINE! Claim it- Make it MY OWN! this is where I do all my work. Its where creativity and positive energy flow. ( I have tried this and it is amazing that it really works. )
Goal 3: Class Goals
A) Get all things turned in on time.
B) Use my planner RELIGIOUSLY!! This will help me when it comes to distractions and time management issues.
C) Work on Service Learning Project and all other major projects a head of time.
I think that much of my goals will be accomplished by implementing the skills that I learned in this class. I am also working on seeing the big picture more and how it connects to what is going on in the moment. I have goals and things that I am working on that are not " tangible" in that they are not something that I can write down and see or have a plan of action to achieve. It is important though. For example Changing how one looks at doing something may not be able to be expressed into words but it is still something that a person works on.
Personal Goals
Tone Up and be 15% body fat.
A) Develop a workout routine that inspires me.
a) Trade smoking for Zumba
b) Have fun while unstressing
Career Goals
Victim Advocate through the State Of New Hampshire.
a) Work on resume. this is a continuing process
b) Chose Classes carefully that will develop and utilize my strengths I learned I had through this class.
c) Network and use contacts and friendships I have developed over the years to meet new people in the field.
d) Interview people in the field now to find what skills I will need to develop.
e) Volunteer! volunteer at the local teen center, the homeless shelter and domestic violence shelter. Also volunteer at the VA and AA. Expose myself to the " real side" of life. Facts are that in my chosen career I will not be dealing with the pretty side of life all the time. So by volunteering I can be helpful and it keeps me in touch with what really goes on in the real world. Builds empathy but also gives me motivation to do my job to the best of my ability and it also helps me be proactive by doing something.
In a nut shell, I am in the process of recovering and redoing my life. This happens when you have a tragedy and your find that you have grown more than you realize. It has not been a year since my foster brother was murdered in the parking garage of his place of work. The attacker robbed him of $28.00 before shooting him in the head. 3 months of life support and surgery we had to take him off life support. The shooter has never been caught. This is what has motivated me to be a victim advocate. I miss my brother very much he was a hardworking man. He would want me to do something to help others but he would also want me to try to understand the type of person who killed him. This is why my goals have had to change somewhat.
Maybe my brain is wired differently than other's but I tend to have to look literally at where I want to go time wise. So I break things down for myself. I have a 5 year plan and then a 3 year and then what I want to accomplish in the next year. From there I break things down further. Having explained how I do things, here is what I am working on for the next year.
Goal 1. Master Plan.
A) Review my Major Goals for next 3-5 yrs. Develop Master Plan with all the steps to accomplish or be moving toward my ultimate goals.
Goal 2: Creating a stress free environment.
A) The Self Reflection Blog helped me see how beneficial it can be when I am in a stress free environment to write. I will carry this into other areas of my life.
B) Carve Out a Corner of My House that's MINE! Claim it- Make it MY OWN! this is where I do all my work. Its where creativity and positive energy flow. ( I have tried this and it is amazing that it really works. )
Goal 3: Class Goals
A) Get all things turned in on time.
B) Use my planner RELIGIOUSLY!! This will help me when it comes to distractions and time management issues.
C) Work on Service Learning Project and all other major projects a head of time.
I think that much of my goals will be accomplished by implementing the skills that I learned in this class. I am also working on seeing the big picture more and how it connects to what is going on in the moment. I have goals and things that I am working on that are not " tangible" in that they are not something that I can write down and see or have a plan of action to achieve. It is important though. For example Changing how one looks at doing something may not be able to be expressed into words but it is still something that a person works on.
Personal Goals
Tone Up and be 15% body fat.
A) Develop a workout routine that inspires me.
a) Trade smoking for Zumba
b) Have fun while unstressing
Career Goals
Victim Advocate through the State Of New Hampshire.
a) Work on resume. this is a continuing process
b) Chose Classes carefully that will develop and utilize my strengths I learned I had through this class.
c) Network and use contacts and friendships I have developed over the years to meet new people in the field.
d) Interview people in the field now to find what skills I will need to develop.
e) Volunteer! volunteer at the local teen center, the homeless shelter and domestic violence shelter. Also volunteer at the VA and AA. Expose myself to the " real side" of life. Facts are that in my chosen career I will not be dealing with the pretty side of life all the time. So by volunteering I can be helpful and it keeps me in touch with what really goes on in the real world. Builds empathy but also gives me motivation to do my job to the best of my ability and it also helps me be proactive by doing something.
In a nut shell, I am in the process of recovering and redoing my life. This happens when you have a tragedy and your find that you have grown more than you realize. It has not been a year since my foster brother was murdered in the parking garage of his place of work. The attacker robbed him of $28.00 before shooting him in the head. 3 months of life support and surgery we had to take him off life support. The shooter has never been caught. This is what has motivated me to be a victim advocate. I miss my brother very much he was a hardworking man. He would want me to do something to help others but he would also want me to try to understand the type of person who killed him. This is why my goals have had to change somewhat.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
What's the Real Explaination
Ok I am not really sure where these correlations even came from on some of them. I was suprised by a few of these. Some of my answers I had to change since I am a comedian at heart. For instance: More people who own washing machines are killed in car accidents Why? HMMMM!!! I really did not know. It makes me think of the thing my grandmother used to tell me all the time " You should always have clean underwear because you never know what could happen, and you never want the ambulance or hospital to see you in dirty underwear!!!" True story.
The thing about men with low sperm count and cell phone's in front pockets: HMMM!!!!!!!!! I would have said it was the radio waves that cell phones omit. The rest of the questions I had no real idea on. In a way its like walking up to someone and saying " Brown Cow" and walking away.
The point of this exercise is to make us look at the cause and effect relationships between things. It is also to point out that we all should be open minded. The answers to these questions I am sure were varied and some of the answers we all gave were probably fascinating! But there is always more to the story than what we immediately hear. So if or when we are open minded and are looking for many reasons, not just the one that pops into our heads when we hear something, we can make better decisions to the causes of something happening.
When I was a very young child, we had an elderly neighbor who apparently believed everything she read, saw or was told immediately and never stopped to think about there could be other reasons. Being that she had no family who would come see her and she was too frail to go out, my mom would check in on her. Elmira was very nice but sadly her life consisted of her tabloids and the controversial talk shows. I can remember it being very late at night and the phone ringing. My mom thought that something terrible had happened so she took the call. NO JOKE I could never make this up Elmira was screaming and crying on the phone about some ridiculious story that she swore was true. Now maybe the paper or her information source made it seem real but when you heard what it was she was so upset about, you had to look at other factors. It took my mom hours to convince Elmira that " We were not under attack and that the Green gas that was reported was not what they thought it was." My mom had to go over to Elmira's house for hours that night to calm her down. Elmira believed everything she read so when it was in the Enquirer to her IT had to be true! Keep in mind that this is a 89 year old lady who was intelligent but in her day the news never lied. So that meant that the Inquirer was news so they wouldn't lie. We found out later on that the story she had heard was about a town that had a major natural gas leak. But you know how the Enquirer is. Point of my story is that be open minded and look for the many reasons something happens not just the first one. This is the point of the exercise.
The thing about men with low sperm count and cell phone's in front pockets: HMMM!!!!!!!!! I would have said it was the radio waves that cell phones omit. The rest of the questions I had no real idea on. In a way its like walking up to someone and saying " Brown Cow" and walking away.
The point of this exercise is to make us look at the cause and effect relationships between things. It is also to point out that we all should be open minded. The answers to these questions I am sure were varied and some of the answers we all gave were probably fascinating! But there is always more to the story than what we immediately hear. So if or when we are open minded and are looking for many reasons, not just the one that pops into our heads when we hear something, we can make better decisions to the causes of something happening.
When I was a very young child, we had an elderly neighbor who apparently believed everything she read, saw or was told immediately and never stopped to think about there could be other reasons. Being that she had no family who would come see her and she was too frail to go out, my mom would check in on her. Elmira was very nice but sadly her life consisted of her tabloids and the controversial talk shows. I can remember it being very late at night and the phone ringing. My mom thought that something terrible had happened so she took the call. NO JOKE I could never make this up Elmira was screaming and crying on the phone about some ridiculious story that she swore was true. Now maybe the paper or her information source made it seem real but when you heard what it was she was so upset about, you had to look at other factors. It took my mom hours to convince Elmira that " We were not under attack and that the Green gas that was reported was not what they thought it was." My mom had to go over to Elmira's house for hours that night to calm her down. Elmira believed everything she read so when it was in the Enquirer to her IT had to be true! Keep in mind that this is a 89 year old lady who was intelligent but in her day the news never lied. So that meant that the Inquirer was news so they wouldn't lie. We found out later on that the story she had heard was about a town that had a major natural gas leak. But you know how the Enquirer is. Point of my story is that be open minded and look for the many reasons something happens not just the first one. This is the point of the exercise.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Poor Communication Skills
These two videos were a great example of what happens when people hear but do not listen. It is easy to hear what someone says but to listen you have to be "Actively Listening". The first video I think was funny but it demonstrates what happens when there are two meangs of words. It is easy to see what happens when a person is not really listening or asking questions to gain a better understanding of what the person wants or is saying.
The second video I wanted to choke the crap out of the clinical worker. First of all if the patient was not feeling depressed, she should have been after that encounter. The clinical worker was anything but sensitive or remotely listening to the patient. She was distracted and was acting as a calious jerk.
See when someone half listens or does not really care about what we are saying they tend to tune us out and vice versa. In the second video the clinician was being aggressively assertive. She was aggressive in how she was dealing with the client. To be actively listening, one is not interrupting or being distracted. In fact, ethically the clinician could loose her job for being unprofessional.
In our interactions with others, students and people need to be sensative to the fact that we do not live in bubbles. The world is a much smaller place and it is easy to offend with out intending. There is cultural diversity that is in large corporations, as well as universities. So how one acts reflects on the person or company greatly. Having some idea of who your client or professor or even other students are should help guide you in your actions. For example, in Japan, removing your shoes before entering a restaurant or home is a sign of respect. I believe that if students learn the ethics of behavior, it is really practice for the real world outside college.
I have been described as the Assertive one. I am always trying to see both sides of the issue and find compromise. I am sensitive to others. This does not mean that I do not speak my mind but I try to do it in a non threatening manner but still get my point across. My one weakness is that I absolutely hate 2 things, 1. I hate people who blow smoke, I would rather someone be honest and just explain that something came up and they could not do something ( that's honest which earns respect) and 2. I hate people who belittle and talk down to someone else. It drives me crazy. The only reason people do that is because they are insecure and having to belittle someone else is how they feel human. That is the fastest way to have me in a confrontation. I do not agree with everyone's views and opinions, but I respect people enough to listen to them so that I can at least see where they are coming from. I am working hard on not letting people being mean get me in a conflict. I have gotten much better over the years, but I know that I will deal with this for the rest of my life.
The second video I wanted to choke the crap out of the clinical worker. First of all if the patient was not feeling depressed, she should have been after that encounter. The clinical worker was anything but sensitive or remotely listening to the patient. She was distracted and was acting as a calious jerk.
See when someone half listens or does not really care about what we are saying they tend to tune us out and vice versa. In the second video the clinician was being aggressively assertive. She was aggressive in how she was dealing with the client. To be actively listening, one is not interrupting or being distracted. In fact, ethically the clinician could loose her job for being unprofessional.
In our interactions with others, students and people need to be sensative to the fact that we do not live in bubbles. The world is a much smaller place and it is easy to offend with out intending. There is cultural diversity that is in large corporations, as well as universities. So how one acts reflects on the person or company greatly. Having some idea of who your client or professor or even other students are should help guide you in your actions. For example, in Japan, removing your shoes before entering a restaurant or home is a sign of respect. I believe that if students learn the ethics of behavior, it is really practice for the real world outside college.
I have been described as the Assertive one. I am always trying to see both sides of the issue and find compromise. I am sensitive to others. This does not mean that I do not speak my mind but I try to do it in a non threatening manner but still get my point across. My one weakness is that I absolutely hate 2 things, 1. I hate people who blow smoke, I would rather someone be honest and just explain that something came up and they could not do something ( that's honest which earns respect) and 2. I hate people who belittle and talk down to someone else. It drives me crazy. The only reason people do that is because they are insecure and having to belittle someone else is how they feel human. That is the fastest way to have me in a confrontation. I do not agree with everyone's views and opinions, but I respect people enough to listen to them so that I can at least see where they are coming from. I am working hard on not letting people being mean get me in a conflict. I have gotten much better over the years, but I know that I will deal with this for the rest of my life.
How to Remember What I Read Post 2
Last summer I was working a ton of hours at a new hotel in Hanover, New Hampshire. My thoughts on that time period are that I got to meet some of the nicest people but I also met some of the biggest entitled bunch of jerks. Hanover is where Dartmouth College is. In fact I could throw a stone and hit the Dartmouth Green. Suprisingly it was not the students who were jerks, nor was it the many parents it is some of the former graduates! Lets say that many of them are polititians, and CEO's, and news personalities. Now this is not to say that all of these people are jerks but there are about 3% who overshadow the nice people. Having said this, we had the class of 1942 come to the hotel for their class reunion.
These were the coolest people I have ever met! Think about it they are in their late 80's and early 90's. I wish I had half the energy these people have! They were kind and polite and they all asked us if we would like to accompany them to their events. This included a hike up MT Cardigan and a dance. They never got back from the dance until after 2:00 am and they were all up and out the door again by 7 am for their next function. I remember asking our General Manager " Could we keep them?" They were just amazing people.
A couple of months later, I met a guest who explained to me why that generation was so awesome! In December of 1941 Pearl Harbor was bombed. By January of 1942, the US Navy had taken over Dartmouth College and several other Universities as a naval installation. This meant that if you were a Dartmouth College student and you were male, you were instantly drafted on the spot and shipped out. All other students were sent home. This went on for the years that the war was going on. Many of the male students never made it home! So when the war was over and life resumed, there was a celebration. But in reality the class of 1942-44 never graduated.
Now put this in perspective for a minute. We all remember how we felt or even where we were on 9/11. Now imagine your in college on campus and it happened. With in less than a month, your either drafted or kicked off campus, your studies are put on hold for a few years, and you are not getting any money back for not being able to go to school, oh and your still having to pay for your student loans while there's a few years of war even though you can't go to school. Oh and your classmates are dying in war overseas. Life changed drastically for these people just as it did for us on 9/11. So when the Class of 42-44 has their reunion, these people are to be in awe over.
Another cool fact about Dartmouth is that they do the Steam Tunnel Tours on occassion. Everything was run on the coal and steam boilers that are over 150 years old. So you can get a better appreciation of how things were and still are by taking the tour. Some of the buildings on and off campus are over 200 years old. Now cool side note that no one knows.: the steam tunnels are how the liquor was smuggled in to Dartmouth College during Prohabition. The Green Mountain Boys would go through the tunnel under the Norwich Inn (which was a Speak Easy during the 1920's) to the river ,1 mile down the road, and then loaded on a small boat and brought to shore,and up through the steam tunnels to Dartmouth and beyond. This went on for years.
The movie Animal House was written by a Dartmouth College Student and Dartmouth was were the movie was based on. That generation still comes and thinks its PARTY Time! ( Rent it on Netflix)
Now why is it that I can remember all this cool but useless trivia???? but I have a hard time remembering what I read? I admit that if I am ever on Jeapordy or Cash Cab and they ask about the above I am covered! But what are the chances of that ever happening. So I decided that in order to remember what I read I need to act like its trivia that I may have to use. I don't know if this will help anyone or not but: I figured that my strategy may actually work.
These were the coolest people I have ever met! Think about it they are in their late 80's and early 90's. I wish I had half the energy these people have! They were kind and polite and they all asked us if we would like to accompany them to their events. This included a hike up MT Cardigan and a dance. They never got back from the dance until after 2:00 am and they were all up and out the door again by 7 am for their next function. I remember asking our General Manager " Could we keep them?" They were just amazing people.
A couple of months later, I met a guest who explained to me why that generation was so awesome! In December of 1941 Pearl Harbor was bombed. By January of 1942, the US Navy had taken over Dartmouth College and several other Universities as a naval installation. This meant that if you were a Dartmouth College student and you were male, you were instantly drafted on the spot and shipped out. All other students were sent home. This went on for the years that the war was going on. Many of the male students never made it home! So when the war was over and life resumed, there was a celebration. But in reality the class of 1942-44 never graduated.
Now put this in perspective for a minute. We all remember how we felt or even where we were on 9/11. Now imagine your in college on campus and it happened. With in less than a month, your either drafted or kicked off campus, your studies are put on hold for a few years, and you are not getting any money back for not being able to go to school, oh and your still having to pay for your student loans while there's a few years of war even though you can't go to school. Oh and your classmates are dying in war overseas. Life changed drastically for these people just as it did for us on 9/11. So when the Class of 42-44 has their reunion, these people are to be in awe over.
Another cool fact about Dartmouth is that they do the Steam Tunnel Tours on occassion. Everything was run on the coal and steam boilers that are over 150 years old. So you can get a better appreciation of how things were and still are by taking the tour. Some of the buildings on and off campus are over 200 years old. Now cool side note that no one knows.: the steam tunnels are how the liquor was smuggled in to Dartmouth College during Prohabition. The Green Mountain Boys would go through the tunnel under the Norwich Inn (which was a Speak Easy during the 1920's) to the river ,1 mile down the road, and then loaded on a small boat and brought to shore,and up through the steam tunnels to Dartmouth and beyond. This went on for years.
The movie Animal House was written by a Dartmouth College Student and Dartmouth was were the movie was based on. That generation still comes and thinks its PARTY Time! ( Rent it on Netflix)
Now why is it that I can remember all this cool but useless trivia???? but I have a hard time remembering what I read? I admit that if I am ever on Jeapordy or Cash Cab and they ask about the above I am covered! But what are the chances of that ever happening. So I decided that in order to remember what I read I need to act like its trivia that I may have to use. I don't know if this will help anyone or not but: I figured that my strategy may actually work.
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